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Regel 43:

Not every difficult boss is a "narcissist". More often it’s a case of [[Special:MyLanguage/Het spectrum van contextgevoeligheid|low-contextual thinking]]: strong in clarity and action, but vulnerable to [[Special:MyLanguage/Probleem van Basisvertrouwen|tunnel vision]] and relational misunderstandings. Understanding this allows you to align better, set more realistic expectations, and work together more constructively.

== People with autism don’t lie, do they? ==

Many people see honesty as a typical feature of [[Special:MyLanguage/Autisme|autism]]. It is true that people with autism often communicate literally and directly, but that doesn’t mean they never hide or adapt the truth. What matters is understanding '''why''' they do it.

=== Context blindness and truth ===

[[Special:MyLanguage/Autisme|Autism]] is often associated with [[Special:MyLanguage/Het spectrum van contextgevoeligheid|context blindness]] —

difficulty in grasping situations within their broader context.

While others spontaneously take into account subtle cues (''the right nuance, the right timing''),

a person with autism tends to focus mainly on factual accuracy or immediate outcomes.

* For them, “truth” is something concrete — what is literally seen or thought.

* As a result, statements that are factually correct may be socially inappropriate.

* Conversely, withholding or adjusting information may feel like a way to maintain peace, not necessarily as deceit.

=== Transactional and egocentric thinking ===

When a person with autism “lies”, it is often not out of malicious manipulation, but rather as a form of [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Transactioneel handelen|transactional behavior]] or [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Egocentrisch denken|egocentric thinking]]. The behavior can have a '''manipulative effect''' — it influences how others respond — but the underlying intent is usually '''practical or protective''', not calculated.

{{Casus|A child with autism does not tell his father that the neighbor was aggressive. He thinks: “If I say that, I won’t be allowed to play at the neighbor’s house anymore.” The child manipulates information to protect an immediate need: maintaining calm and keeping access to the neighbor’s home (transactional behavior).

In the long term, however, this creates other problems:

the father may trust the child less, and an incident at the neighbor’s could have been prevented if the truth had been told.}}

=== So, is that lying? ===

Lying implies an intention to deceive and an awareness of its consequences. People with autism often lack that second component: they have limited awareness of broader context and long-term consequences. The behavior is therefore more a result of limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|context integration]] than of moral unwillingness or a lack of honesty.

=== What helps in communication ===

* '''Ask clarifying questions''' instead of judging.

* '''Explain explicitly why truth or openness matters''' in that situation.

* '''Highlight consequences''' in both the short and long term, making context more visible.

* '''Acknowledge''' that “truth” has different layers — factual, social, and emotional.

=== Conclusion ===

People with autism may consciously adjust the truth to elicit a desired reaction or avoid tension —

that is, in a sense, '''manipulation''', but not of the calculated or malicious kind.

It is a short-term strategy arising from limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|contextual insight]]

and a need for order or predictability.

Understanding this can help reduce misunderstandings and rebuild trust.

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 Not every difficult boss is a "narcissist". More often it’s a case of [[Special:MyLanguage/Het spectrum van contextgevoeligheid|low-contextual thinking]]: strong in clarity and action, but vulnerable to [[Special:MyLanguage/Probleem van Basisvertrouwen|tunnel vision]] and relational misunderstandings. Understanding this allows you to align better, set more realistic expectations, and work together more constructively.
+<span id="Iemand_met_autisme_liegt_toch_niet?"></span>
+== People with autism don’t lie, do they? ==
+Many people see honesty as a typical feature of [[Special:MyLanguage/Autisme|autism]]. It is true that people with autism often communicate literally and directly, but that doesn’t mean they never hide or adapt the truth. What matters is understanding '''why''' they do it.
+=== Context blindness and truth ===
+[[Special:MyLanguage/Autisme|Autism]] is often associated with [[Special:MyLanguage/Het spectrum van contextgevoeligheid|context blindness]] —
+difficulty in grasping situations within their broader context.
+While others spontaneously take into account subtle cues (''the right nuance, the right timing''),
+a person with autism tends to focus mainly on factual accuracy or immediate outcomes.
+* For them, “truth” is something concrete — what is literally seen or thought.
+* As a result, statements that are factually correct may be socially inappropriate.
+* Conversely, withholding or adjusting information may feel like a way to maintain peace, not necessarily as deceit.
+=== Transactional and egocentric thinking ===
+When a person with autism “lies”, it is often not out of malicious manipulation, but rather as a form of [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Transactioneel handelen|transactional behavior]] or [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Egocentrisch denken|egocentric thinking]]. The behavior can have a '''manipulative effect''' — it influences how others respond — but the underlying intent is usually '''practical or protective''', not calculated.
+{{Casus|A child with autism does not tell his father that the neighbor was aggressive. He thinks: “If I say that, I won’t be allowed to play at the neighbor’s house anymore.” The child manipulates information to protect an immediate need: maintaining calm and keeping access to the neighbor’s home (transactional behavior).
+In the long term, however, this creates other problems:
+the father may trust the child less, and an incident at the neighbor’s could have been prevented if the truth had been told.}}
+=== So, is that lying? ===
+Lying implies an intention to deceive and an awareness of its consequences. People with autism often lack that second component: they have limited awareness of broader context and long-term consequences. The behavior is therefore more a result of limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|context integration]] than of moral unwillingness or a lack of honesty.
+=== What helps in communication ===
+* '''Ask clarifying questions''' instead of judging.
+* '''Explain explicitly why truth or openness matters''' in that situation.
+* '''Highlight consequences''' in both the short and long term, making context more visible.
+* '''Acknowledge''' that “truth” has different layers — factual, social, and emotional.
+=== Conclusion ===
+People with autism may consciously adjust the truth to elicit a desired reaction or avoid tension —
+that is, in a sense, '''manipulation''', but not of the calculated or malicious kind.
+It is a short-term strategy arising from limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|contextual insight]]
+and a need for order or predictability.
+Understanding this can help reduce misunderstandings and rebuild trust.