Hoog-contextuelen als helpers/en: verschil tussen versies
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This risk is especially high in relationships with people with borderline or narcissistic traits. | This risk is especially high in relationships with people with borderline or narcissistic traits. | ||
The book ''[https://www.bol.com/be/nl/f/stop-caretaking-the-borderline-or-narcissist/9200000007711633 Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist]'' (Margalis Fjelstad) describes this mechanism: | |||
* The high-contextual partner becomes a permanent ''caregiver'' (caretaker) who continually fills the emotional and contextual gaps of the other. | |||
* | * As a result, the helper loses his/her own boundaries, identity, and energy. | ||
* | * A vicious circle of '''victim–aggressor–rescuer''' (the drama triangle) develops. | ||
* | * The relationship becomes unstable, emotionally exhausting, and toxic. | ||
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{{Casus|A high-contextual partner feels obliged to contextualize and calm the outbursts of a borderline partner over and over again. | {{Casus|A high-contextual partner feels obliged to contextualize and calm the outbursts of a borderline partner over and over again. | ||