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When a person with autism “lies”, it is often not out of malicious manipulation, but rather as a form of [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Transactioneel handelen|transactional behavior]] or [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Egocentrisch denken|egocentric thinking]]. The behavior can have a '''manipulative effect''' — it influences how others respond — but the underlying intent is usually '''practical or protective''', not calculated. | When a person with autism “lies”, it is often not out of malicious manipulation, but rather as a form of [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Transactioneel handelen|transactional behavior]] or [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Egocentrisch denken|egocentric thinking]]. The behavior can have a '''manipulative effect''' — it influences how others respond — but the underlying intent is usually '''practical or protective''', not calculated. | ||
{{Casus|A child with autism does not tell his father that the neighbor was aggressive. He thinks: “If I say that, I won’t be allowed to play at the neighbor’s house anymore.” The child manipulates information to protect an immediate need: maintaining calm and keeping access to the neighbor’s home (transactional behavior). | |||
{{Casus| | In the long term, however, this creates other problems: | ||
the father may trust the child less, and an incident at the neighbor’s could have been prevented if the truth had been told.}} | |||
=== So, is that lying? === | |||
Lying implies an intention to deceive and an awareness of its consequences. People with autism often lack that second component: they have limited awareness of broader context and long-term consequences. The behavior is therefore more a result of limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|context integration]] than of moral unwillingness or a lack of honesty. | |||
=== What helps in communication === | |||
* '''Ask clarifying questions''' instead of judging. | |||
* ''' | * '''Explain explicitly why truth or openness matters''' in that situation. | ||
* ''' | * '''Highlight consequences''' in both the short and long term, making context more visible. | ||
* ''' | * '''Acknowledge''' that “truth” has different layers — factual, social, and emotional. | ||
* ''' | |||
=== Conclusion === | |||
People with autism may consciously adjust the truth to elicit a desired reaction or avoid tension — | |||
that is, in a sense, '''manipulation''', but not of the calculated or malicious kind. | |||
It is a short-term strategy arising from limited [[Special:MyLanguage/Lexicon#Complex denken|contextual insight]] | |||
and a need for order or predictability. | |||
Understanding this can help reduce misunderstandings and rebuild trust. | |||